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He is a very nice guy and I do like him a lot, but.....
I have a question for you. I met this guy and he is so sweet and just a perfect gentleman. We have gone on one date and are going on another one shortly. I do like him, but I'm confused as to what I should even pursue this relationship. The problem? He's leaving to join the Marines in a few months and I'm going away to college. I'm worried about what could all happen such as getting very attached or missing opportunities in this or other relationships after he leaves. He is a very nice guy and I do like him a lot, but I'm confused as to what would be best. thank you, falling for the marines
Dear Falling;
Congratulations on being mature enough to understand the complications of this relationship.
I know you want me to say "Stay in the relationship and support him as he goes off to serve." or "Let him go so you can more fully enjoy your college experience." but I'm not going to do either one. Instead, I'm going to give you some things to consider
It's only been one date with another one coming. There's no real committment.
College and the military carries their own set of circumstances demanding attention. Knowing someone you care about is away from that gives you someone you can rely on when things get tough. You can reach out to them and share both the victories and the challenges.
The beginning of a relationship is carried on adrenalin and momemtum. College and the military is going to stifle both and may be hard to sustain with someone you've only seen a few times unless you know it's love.
Sometimes the timing's just off. Maybe if one you were staying put with the other one going,it wouldn't be as complicated, but with both of you on the move, it will be two moving targets trying to catch each other.
I would suggest you speak with him about it and see if his thoughts help clarify your decision. Either way, please decide and let him know before he goes off to training. The distraction of a Dear John letter in Basic Training isn't cool.
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