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How can I explain this to my friends?
I'm seeing a married man and my friends are telling me to stop seeing him. I never thought I'd do something like this, but I can't help, I fell in love. How can I explain this to my friends?
I have no moral imperative to impart, you can have said you're in love with a man who's in jail, or who beats you, and my answer would be the same: what do you mean you can't help it and you fell in love?
As wonderful and unexpected that love can feel, we always make a decision whether to pursue it or not. Your friends are not upset with you because you fell in love, they're upset because you made the decision to act on it by seeing him. That's something you can help. You can stop taking his phone calls. You can stay away from him. You can tell him never to contact you again.
Because this is 'something you'd never thought you'd do', it must go against what you thought was right but you made a decision to put that belief aside in order to enjoy the company of this man. You need to come clean with yourself first and realize you made a decision instead of being swept away on an uncontrollable wave, then you can explain to your friends that it was a decision that was yours to make, you made it, and you will live with it and the consequences that comes with it.
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