There's this guy I know and he wants to go out with me. He's very nice and he has a daughter who's about the same age as mine. I think about going out with him, but I don't know if I can trust him. He hasn't done anything specifically that I can point to that tells me he would cheat but he's very popular with a lot of women. I see him at my the school and there are women talking to him all the time and he seems to enjoy their attention. Yet, he has indicated he would like to take me out.
I don't know if I can trust him. I've already gone through a bad experience and I don't wish to live through it again. How can I tell if he's trustworthy?
The problem isn't whether or not he's trustworthy, the problem is your ability to trust. You see him at school and he's talking to women? Are they teachers? Mothers? He seems to enjoy their attention? You mean because he isn't being rude and running the other way?
You need to get a grip on reality and stop giving yourself permission to be a victim before a crime has been committed. You've been hurt before? Welcome to the world. If you're over twelve and interested in people, you've been hurt.
You cannot have any level of success without any level of action. I am going to suggest you speak with someone who can assist you in learning that it's not a question of whether or not he cheats, but how you can handle it if he does and how not to look for the clouds in an otherwise blue sky.
The first step is getting assistance so you can learn how to trust yourself and that will hopefully lead you back into living more fully.
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