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How do I become a bad boy?
How do I become a bad boy? I see these guys and they have girls all over them. I date someone and treat them well and they dump me after the first date. I didn't believe it was true that women want bad boys. I thought that was just an illusion but my experience tells me it isn't. They want men who don't call when they say they do. Who treat them like dirt in public and act like jerks. So, if I can't beat them, I will join them. How do I become a bad boy?
There are some women who prefer "bad boys" and the question you have to ask yourself before you become a "bad boy" is why you want a woman who craves to be mistreated? What's wrong with them that makes being mistreated ok and what's wrong with you that you want a woman like that?
Look, women and men romanticize the aura of the "bad boy". We look at rockers and thing they have hot looking women on their arms and they love 'em and leave 'em and more women are there to take their place. It has a certain appeal. It also has a smack of immaturity. Jon Bon Jovi has said women are all around and he could get one if he wants one, but availability doesn't mean you indulge and there are better things out there..like his wife and family. He also said there's a myth surrounding the "bad boy" persona.
Are there women who are treated like dirt and keep going back to their men? Of course there are and those women need some help and intervention to love themselves better.
Are there men out there who treat women like dirt and think that's how it should be? Of course there are and they draw to them those women who think the same way they do. Be glad they take each other out of circulation.
My guess is you don't want to be a "bad boy" but you want to me a more confident, assertive man who knows that if he finds a woman that would be great but if he doesn't his life can be just as wonderful. That can look like a "bad boy" but is far from it.
A couple of things you can do is to look at the women you're going after. If you're really attracted to women who are treated the way you say and you find their reaction somehow fulfilling, you probably need to examine why.
You can also work on your own confidence level, creating your own boundaries and rules for your life that govern how you live with women and how you will live without them should that special one not come along.
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