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How do I tell her I don't want to see her anymore?
I've been seeing someone for the past eight months, but the feelings I had are gone. How do I tell her I don't want to see her anymore?
It's rare that we are going to meet our soul mate our first time out, so we have to learn how to both give and receive the news that a relationship has gone its distance.
First, do it face to face. Anything less is cowardly and wrong. This was a person who has invested time in your well being and presumably has been a good companion for a decent chunk of the time you were together. They deserve the respect of your maturity.
Explain that it isn't working for you anymore and give your reasons. But understand you don't need a spectacularly good reason for not wanting the relationship - you just don't. But also understand that if this is an unexpected turn in the relationship, you will be questioned and tested to make sure it's what you want to do. Understand there may be questions - you should answer them honestly. Understand there might be anger and lashing out- you need to allow it as long as it doesn't amount to abusiveness.
If it's a case where you'll be in each other's company for time to time, explain that you wish to remain cordial and hope to be friendly and would even want to be friends if that can be managed down the road. Only make that offer if it's true. If you want no further contact it will be implied by what you don't say.
This is one of the most difficult times in a relationship, but done with sensitivity and maturity, it doesn't have to a staining time and can give you both surer footing as you walk away from one association and towards the next one.
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