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Im too old for this be bothering me, but here it is....
Im too old for this be bothering me, but here it is. I dated "Ron" for about three years. We parted and remained friends. We didnt hang out as much as we did before we started dating, but we did hang out and saw each other regularly with friends in group settings.
Ron recently came to me to say he was attracted to my friend, Billie, and wanted to know if it would bother me if he tried to get her to go out with him. I told him, no, and when she expressed an interest in him, I told her it was fine with me that they try and find their happiness.
I lied. It bothers me. I am not jealous; at least I dont want him back, but I am concerned about what their closeness with each other means to their closeness with me. Their finding each other could mean I lose both of them. How can I make sure it doesnt happen?
Darlene
Dear Darlene,
Oh yeah, I've always given advice on how to break up people. How do you make sure it doesn't happen that your friends don't get together. I'm not going to tell you that because I don't you should try and break them up. I think you admit to yourself that you do mind it and the reasons why, and then admit it to them. They can give you reassurances that your friendships will not fall apart, or they can look at you like you're crazy.
Go to one of them, Ron, since he was the one who came to you, and tell him you do feel funny watching him and Billie together, so you are going to make an effort not to be around them until such time that you remember you're an adult. He'll tell Billie and then maybe the two of you will talk.
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