I really like this guy at school (we're both 16) he was walking with me and he held open the door for me. One of my friends saw us and she totally freaked. She said he was treating me as if I couldn't open my own door and that he would probably expect me to be a servant to him. I thought he was just being nice and courteous. Isn't it ok for a guy to hold the door open for me?
It's ok for him to hold the door open for you. It's ok for him to walk on the curb side of the street when you're walking outside. It's ok for him to hold you seat when you're being seated. It's ok for him to come to the door and ask for you instead of beeping his horn from his car. Those things come from a time when men were expected to be protectors of women and also when women wore clothing that could be caught in doorways, splashed with curb water of waste from the street, and dresses had to be arranged around chairs. Just because those conditions don't exist, doesn't mean chivalry is dead. Your male friend is showing courtesy and it doesn't mean he wants to control you. Your girlfriend is overreacting. There will be other more telling things he will do if he's got a controlling nature. Enjoy the courtesy...and hold the door open for him every once in a while.
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