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She finds flaws with every guy who shows interest in her
My friend insists she's ready for a relationship, but she finds flaws with every guy who shows interest in her. One guy at the gym was rejected because of his socks. A man at work because he wore a fanny pack. I keep telling her she'll find someone but encouraging her is getting harder as he goes through all these men. Help! How do I keep encouraging her?
Why do you keep encouraging her? The reason you're having a hard time is because her words and her actions are inconsistent. Someone who is interested in finding a relationship isn't going to veto a man wearing gym socks or a fanny pack. (Unless, of course, he's wearing nylon socks with his workout shorts or the fanny pack with a fitted suit.)
Your friend didn't ask what she should do about her obvious block against having a relationship so I won't say anything there, but you're enabling her routine: see guy, want guy, reject guy, call friend and complain, get stroked, see guy...etc.
One of the things you can do is to encourage her in another direction. When she tells you something that's a barrier about the guy, ask her about something she liked about him. For every negative she gives, ask why she was attracted to him to begin with. Of course, the ultimate way to encourage her is to call the game. You can tell her she isn't ready to have a relationship because she isn't willing to rise above superficiality and you encourage her to not put up the road block so early and to actually talk with one of these guys before she rejects him out of hand.
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