I started seeing Anthony about four months ago. We both made it clear we were just looking for some good times and sex and there would be no strings attached. We told each other about past, painful relationships and we both felt better out than in. but now my feelings have changed and I find I would like more from him. He's mentioned that he thinks I would be good to date, but never pursued it any further. Since we agreed on this one path, am I obligated to take it or do I have to leave him and be unhappy?
Urika
Dear Urika
Why are those your only options? Why couldn't you tell him the feelings have changed and see where he is? Even if he doesn't agree, why would you have to be unhappy?
Take out all the drama and talk to him. Tell him you understand the agreement but the circumstances are different and does he think there's any chance of a renegotiation? If so, there you go. If not, there he goes and you can know you had a relationship that worked exactly the way it was supposed to and you can take the time to grieve a little and move on.
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