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Do I even bother calling again if we don't get together Sunday?
I'm 22 and have never really dated. A week ago when I went out with a friend to the bar. I met a guy, and ended up going home with him. It's not something I normally do, but we really hit it off and my friend was going home with his friend, and I didn't want to leave her alone. I told him in the car that I wasn't going to sleep with him, and he was fine with that. We spent most of the night talking, but ended up sleeping together.
Before anything happened, he told me that he really liked me and wanted to hang out more. He drove me home the next morning and we made plans to see each other again. He was sick the day we had originally planned to go out, but went out 2 days later (my next day off from work). We had a great date -- we went mini golfing, did a little shopping, went to the pet store, and to the car wash. This was my first real date -- ever. I'm not into the games that come with dating, so I made things clear the entire time.
After the date, I told him I had to work all weekend (I work nights) so I probably won't be able to see him until Sunday. He said it was fine, that he was headed to his brother's for his sister-in-law's birthday. So, I called him on Saturday to see if we could try and make plans for Sunday. He says he'll call when he gets home, but then proceeds to tell me that an old friend he hasn't seen for 5 months called him yesterday -- and that he misses her -- so he might be busy. I have absolutely no problem with him having friends, female or not, but why would he tell me he misses her? Is this his way of letting me know he not really into me?
Do I even bother calling again if we don't get together Sunday?
Dear Reader
Wow, you certainly crammed a lot into that first date experience. No, I wouldn't call again if you don't get together, but I wouldn't make the leap that says the gal pal is anything other than that. It doesn't mean he's not lying, it means that whether or not he is, you are going to put yourself above it. When you have more dating experience under your belt, you'll learn there are people who act with varying levels of openess and honesty. You appear to be very upfront and honest, and you aren't afraid to call and ask him out. Those are good qualities - don't let them get buried under feelings of doubt about what someone else does. The only person you can control is you and you need to know that you'll survive no matter how someone else controls themselves.
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