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How can I get past self sabotage and stay with a guy long enough to see if I can have that serious relationship
 I would like to have a serious relationship one day. I would love to be married and to start a family. The problem is I wreck every relationship I get into. I start to get scared and then I end up saying something or doing something that causes the guy to move on. How can I get past self sabotage and stay with a guy long enough to see if I can have that serious relationship?  This is a chance to get some insight from your webmates to see if they have some ideas for you to stop deconstructing your relationships before they begin to build - for my answer, continue on. You have something in common with one of my good friends. She says she wants to have a boyfriend and a relationship but she always find something wrong with the guy and she can't move past the flaw: like she doesn't like the socks he wears when he works out. I will tell you what I tell her and she doesn't like the answer either, but she can't refute it: you're not ready for a serious relationship and if you're doing thing to sabotage them before they even get off the ground, you're not even fixin' to get ready. Get past the sabotage by telling yourself, honestly, you might want to want a serious relationship, but you're not ready for it. You then have to determine what it was that made you think you were: parental or peer pressure, biological clock, whatever; you will have to deal with that and see if that leaves you in a more receptive place. In the meantime, give the guys a break by not repeating the old, destructive patterns and just enjoy yourself.
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