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How do you suggest I break the news to her that I like someone she won't approve of
There's a girl at school I like and I would like to ask her out but she is of a different race. My father wouldn't have a problem with it; he once told me about this girl he dated in college who was a different race. The problem is my mother. She has made comments in the past about people of different races. I think she's totally wrong and unfair, but at seventeen, I still live at home and need their permission for a lot of things I want to do. How do you suggest I break the news to her that I like someone she won't approve of without knowing them?
There are a few options: you can tell your parents together and then let your father naturally be your defense or you can tell your father first and then the two of you can work on your mother. Or you can have a one on one with your mom and tell her you know what she has said in the past, but you do not subscribe to her beliefs and there is someone you would like to see socially and she is of another race.
I don't know which one would be the best option for you. I would probably tell both of them together so they both hear the story from you and no one is kept in the dark and your mom won't feel as if you and your dad are ganging up on her. What you will have to be prepared for is your parents telling you that you cannot see this girl. Your father may not be able to convince your mother she's wrong. It could be you will have to keep this girl as a friend until you are old enough and on your own to be able to follow through on your beliefs.
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