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Should I see continue seeing this guy and wait until he's ready to come out
 I am gay. I met this guy a few months back at the gym and I thought he was straight because he was working out with a woman he called his girlfriend. One day, he came to the gym without her and we worked out together. Afterwards, while we were having a juice, he asked me out. It seems his girlfriend is not really his girlfriend, but he's not out because he's kinda a big name in his field. I really liked him and we ended up being together and seeing each other. He says he wants to be with me, but he can't be open about the relationship just yet. It took me a long time to come out of the closet so while I understand what he's going through, I don't want to go back there. Should I see continue seeing this guy and wait until he's ready to come out or should I tell him to look me up when he's comfortable being who he is?  A relationship works on two yeses or one no. So, if he is out and you are not, then we you are together you are not out. Are you comfortable with that? If someone you know approaches the two of you and they know you are gay, will you be able to deny the guy you're with is someone you're not dating? He has the right not to come out so that isn't anything you should try and force. You have the right not to be with someone who wants to hide who he is. So you shouldn't try and force yourself to be who you aren't. It all comes down to what you're willing to give away.
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