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How can I get my mother to calm down?
 Parents just don't understand. I am a junior in high school and I have been allowed to date for the past few months. I have met someone and I would like to be his girlfriend. I told this to my mother and she practically went postal. She says I cannot have a boyfriend because she is too young to be a grandmother. She sat me down and had a talk about responsibility and birth control. Please! I'm not even thinking about sex. I just want to have a relationship that's a step above a play date. How can I get my mother to calm down?  Good for you for being so well grounded. You should thank your mother for that. Good for her for wanting to speak with you about being responsible instead of crossing her fingers and hoping for the best. You and your mom are going through a new phase of life. You are growing up and "beginning to begin" pulling away and she wants to make sure you're really ready. She's not trying to hold you back. If she said you can't have a boyfriend she might be throwing a new rule in the mix that wasn't there before, but it sounds as if she's telling you not to get too serious too quickly and definitely not to have sex. Tell your mom you heard what she said and you have every intention of being careful and responsible on your play dates. Then live up to your word. That should help her calm down and be proud of you at the same time. That will make it easier for her to allow you to grow, although it sounds as if she hasn't been doing a bad job so far.
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