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Make Love Last - Tips to Help You Stay in Love Forever
By Laura Rupert
Most youngsters believe they will fall in love one day with their soul mate and then everything will be just perfect until one of them dies in 50+ years. This is a fairy tale and it is not realistic. Falling in love is easy; staying in love takes hard work and effort on both parts. That is the reality and something all young couples should realize before they ever marry. Knowing this up front could help many marriages stay in tact and keep many couples together forever.
How is Love Work?
Love is wonderful and that connection you feel for the other individual will only grow stronger and deeper each year if you foster the love and help it grow. However, if you stifle love it will burn out and your relationship will fail. So, you are probably wondering what you can possibly do to keep love alive. The answer is to simply keep doing the things you did when you first fell in love.
The most important thing you can do is to always consider your other half. Think of their feelings before you say or do something and make your mate your number one priority. When you do this all of your other priorities will fall in line behind your relationship and you will be happy knowing that the needs of your spouse are being met. Too many times as relationships grow older spouses stop thinking of one another or treating their spouse like they used to. This results in the other spouse feeling as if they don't matter like they once did and might doubt your feelings for them. When there are doubts in the relationship all kinds of things can happen, so be sure to foster love by focusing on your spouse on a daily basis. Examples can be noticing when your spouse is really busy or stressed and doing something to help relieve the tension. This might be cooking dinner, taking the kids to school, doing the laundry, or simply giving a nice massage. None of these things take a lot of effort, but they can make the difference in the way your spouse feels about you.
Another way to stay in love forever is to call your spouse every day. I know, you think this is a waste of cell phone minutes because you see each other all the time, but how much time do you have just for yourselves? If you are like most couples probably not a lot so simply dial up your spouse on your way to or from work, during your lunch hour, or sneak out of a meeting for a quick call. This will spike your romance level, make your spouse feel incredible, and these great feelings will rub off in your work, in your personal life, and with all of your other relationships as well. It is amazing what a loving phone call can do.
Many couples that make it to their Golden Anniversary and longer say the key to success is not only love, respect, honor, fidelity, and all of those important things, but also making alone time for one another. Once kids enter your lives alone time is difficult to find. However, if you plan a date night as a couple, no kids or friends, once a week or once a month and always stick to it you will find your relationship stays stronger and you will look forward to that day all week or all month. Nurturing your love by demonstrating it is important and having a few moments to unwind and connect with your spouse might mean the difference in a long term relationship or ending up in divorce court. Have you ever heard couples say they just drifted apart? Don't let that happen to you and plan regular date nights!
Don't forget that while your actions are important your words are as well. Both men and women need to hear how their spouse feels about them on a regular basis so tell them. If you are in love you can tell your spouse that as often as you like and it will always be appreciated. The last thing you want to do is begin a relationship expressing your feelings and then as time goes by just assume your spouse knows how you feel. This will cause doubts and that is the last thing you want to do. Simply tell your wife or husband that you love them, appreciate them, need them and it will make a world of difference in your relationship.
There are obviously many ways you can stay in love for the long haul and it really does take work and a conscious effort to do so. However, if you are really in love and have a family then it is worth the effort to make your relationship work.
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