When does no mean no? I have been dating this girl for almost three years and she broke it off with me. She is dating someone else, but she said he isn't the reason she's no longer seeing me. I know I made some mistakes in our relationship and I am willing to work on myself and fix them in order to get her to stay. I have contacted her and asked her to just talk with me about the things that went wrong. She has told me that I try and control everything and need to work on my temper. I told her I would do that and needed her assistance to make me better. She has asked me to not call her anymore. I didn't call her for a few days but needed more information and called her again. She practically yelled at me to leave her alone and her new guy got on the phone and said very firmly he would ‘appreciate me not calling her anymore'. I can't win her back if she won't talk to me.
No means no the moment it's said. No means no even if it doesn't mean no.
She said you tried to control everything and it looks like she was right. She asked you to not call and yet you do. You tried to manipulate her by saying she needed to be around so you can get help. You used the very trait she said she didn't like to get her to do what you wanted. Smart girl for not falling for it.
No means no when not abiding by the word can get you into physical or legal trouble.
You can't win her back because she won't talk to you and she won't talk to you because she doesn't want you back. No doesn't come much louder than that.
It's time to move on: and take her seriously by not contacting her and by getting some help with your need to control. I suspect your next relationship will not go well until you learn to temper your temper.
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