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I cheated on my boyfriend and the guilt has been gnawing at me
 I cheated on my boyfriend a few months ago and the guilt has been gnawing at me. My boyfriend prides honestly above all else in our relationship, so in the spirit of being honest, I think I should tell him. How do I go about it?  I feel obligated to answer the question you asked and I will, but I wish your question was should you tell him. Oh, what the heck. Reconsider telling him. I understand the honesty thing, but you don't want to tell him because it's honest, if you were doing honest things all the time, you wouldn't have cheated, you want to tell because you feel guilty. Anyone who says they're honest 100% of the time, just proved they aren't. This isn't a guilt that's better shared. If you've done wrong, and you know it, and you are not inclined to cheat again, swallow the bitter pill and become a better person because of it and never tell. He won't feel good, he'll feel hurt and that guilt you thought to assuage will loom even larger. But, if you are determined to tell: pick a quiet time when you have his attention and not right after sex, and tell him straight out that you cheated and the reason you're telling him. Be prepared to answer all the questions he asks: you can't hide now, remember you wanted to be completely honest, and then give him room to determine how he's going to deal with it...and you.
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