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I don't get why he said we could be friends if he didn't mean it.
I was dating this guy for about three months. We hadn't slept together yet, but we were getting along very well. He decided he wanted to end it and he never gave me a reason why. He did say that since there was no sex, there was no reason the breakup couldn't be amicable and no reason we couldn't be friends. I made the decision that being his friend would be a cool thing as I do have guys who are just friends.
I called him last week to ask if he was going to the football game the rest of our group was going with and he reminded me we had broken up. I told him I realized that since I hadn't talked to him in a few weeks. I just wanted to know if he was going to the game because we could go together without any attachments. He seemed surprise by that and thanked me for the offer to drive but refused.
I've talked with him a few times after that, and it has always been me contacting him by phone or email. He hasn't returned any of my calls and his email responses have been short. I don't get why he said we could be friends if he didn't mean it.
You don't need to understand it; you need to leave the man alone. No matter what your intentions are, it could appear to him that you're trying to get him back. His definition of friends means "I know you exist somewhere in the world, just not in the area of the world I'm in." and your definition is that you can be pals. That doesn't make him a bad person; it means your definition of friendship is different - at least for right now. Since he doesn't return the calls, and the emails are so short, and he was surprised you took him up on the "let's be friends"; I would say he didn't expect you to contact him again. I suggest you stop doing so and if a friendship develops then so be it.
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