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I don't understand why they could possibly wish to meet me
 I'm engaged to a guy who is a little older than me (I'm 23). He's a wonderful man and he's been married before. His wife died a little more than two years ago - they had no children. When talking about the guest list, he wants to invite members of his late wife's family to the wedding. He says they've been wanting to meet me and he would like to have them there. I don't understand why they need to be there or why they could possibly wish to meet me. How do I deal with the situation? Yvonne  Dear Yvonne, Deal with it by being a bit more gracious. It's what you didn't say that I heard the loudest.You didn't say why you wouldn't want them there. He's marrying again and he obviously has a close relationship with his late's wife family: that's not surprising if his first marriage was a good and supportive one and they clung to each other after suffering the loss of his wife. You have evidence of what kind of man you have. There's nothing wrong with having good people in your life. His first marriage existed, you cannot nor should you, wish it away. As long as they are intrusive and are close to your fiance, meet them with an open mind and open heart.
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