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I feel as if I have to choose between this new friendship and the one with my friend.
A friend of mine introduced me to a guy she likes. It was clear from his reaction and from his lack of interaction with her that he is not into her the way she is to him. Before the end of the event, he pulled me aside and asked for my number and asked if he could call me. I gave him my number and said he could. I didn't tell my friend, but someone else saw him speaking with me and told her. She wanted to know if he was asking about her and when I said he wasn't, she kept insisting I tell her the nature of the conversation until I told her what went on. She's upset with me.
This guy and I had a connection, and if it there was something more to it, I would have told her. Now I feel as if I have to choose between this new friendship/relationship and the one with my friend.
Irene
Dear Irene
It's good to know you would have told your friend if there had been something to tell. The reason this is sticky is because of a quirk in women's behavior. Women tend to think of a guy they like as their guy even if the guy doesn't know they like them. So your girlfriend probably feels as if you're going after her guy even though he's not.
Yep, you have a choice to make and I can't tell you which way to go - but personally, I wouldn't want to hold my friend back by making her stay with me when there's a possibility they can make a friendship (or more) with someone else. I wouldn't like it at the beginning, but my ability to recover is pretty amazing. You will have to decide which one you want more and know you can live with the decision.
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