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I'm not sure it's the right thing to do with this hanging over our heads.
 I have been with my boyfriend for about two years. During our first year, we were both emotionally immature and we cheated on each other. We have since dealt with that and moved one, or so I thought. We went to a party a friend was throwing for me to celebrate a promotion at work. There was this young girl about 19 or 20 who latched on to my boyfriend and starting flirting with him and he flirted back. in fact, he spent most of the evening speaking with her and not with me. A few days later while he was in the shower, his phone rang and I picked it up and saw there was a text message left for him. Something told me to read it and it was from her confirming they were going to see each other at another party we were going to. I confronted him with it and he said it was nothing but a kid flirting with an older guy. I asked him how the kid got his cell phone number to flirt and he told me to stop being crazy. I love my boyfriend and we had been talking about taking our relationship to the next level, but I'm not sure it's the right thing to do with this hanging over our heads.  I can definitely tell you it's not the right thing to do with this over hanging over your heads. The first red flag was him spending more time at a party openly flirting with someone else. The second thing was her text messaging without so much as a qualm that you would find out. You need to set some boundaries and right now. You need to be prepared to stand by your convictions. If this isn't ok with you, then you need to tell him so and be prepared to deal with it if and when he doesn't respect you. It is not ok for him to create a relationship like this, especially if this is just a kid he has no intention of seeing. He's being disrespectful to both of you, though I imagine it's not exactly as he's portraying it. If this is a deal breaker you need to tell him so and if he continues to "see" her, you need to get yourself out of this situation. Love will come again but it has to have self-respect and integrity as part of the map.
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