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I want to make this relationship work but don’t know where to start.
My girlfriend is cheating on me. We’ve been together for a little more than a year and we have a six month old daughter. When I discovered she was pregnant, I told her I would marry her and she refused that but agreed to live with me so we could raise our daughter together. I have discovered emails she has been sending and receiving from other men. There have been strange phone calls to the house. I confronted one man I found her with when I tracked her down at a restaurant, but she went out and found someone else to take his place. She said she never wanted a committed relationship and if she thought she could have gotten away with, she probably would have put the child up for adoption. I want to make this relationship work but don’t know where to start. Any suggestions?
Make the relationship work by ending it. The only reason you insisted on being together was for the sake of your daughter. How is it working for her to grow up in a home where her parents show no respect and her mother would have given her up if she could have figured out how. Her words coincide with her actions: she doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship and she’s acting as if she isn’t. She wouldn’t marry you because she didn’t want to. She hasn’t lied to you. You need to believe her and stop lying to yourself that this is something other than what it’s playing out to be.
Stop making yourself a victim and start running your own life. If she doesn’t want to be a mom, then file for custody of your daughter and start building a life for the two of that could possibly one day include a woman who will love and want you both. In the meantime, it’s better for your daughter that she not have her mother as a role model of how women behave or how you as a man accept that behavior.
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