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Is there something I can do to get over this or should I just call him and get closure?
 I am 24 and am involved with a great guy who pays attention to me and is honest. The problem is I can't stop thinking about my ex. We were together from the time I was 16 to 22. we were even engaged to be married but he cheated on me a couple of times. He agreed to go to counseling, but stopped coming after about four sessions. I love the man I'm with but I think abut my ex almost all the time. I wonder what it would have been like if we were still together. I find myself wanting to talk with him, but I also know if he came back to me I wouldn't take him back. is there something I can do to get over this or should I just call him and get closure?  You shouldn't call him and you should get closure which you can get by allowing yourself to be a bit more mature and little less self-indulgent. It doesn't sound like you're as hung up on your ex as you are wanting to exact some kind of revenge on him. You're with a terrific guy and yet two years later you wonder what it would have been like with a guy who cheats and walks on trying to work things out? Your telling point is that if he initiated contact, you'd be able to resist his charms, but you still want to be the one to control a conversation to get "closure" which is a term for "having it my way". Leave your ex alone and get on with your life. If he hasn't made a move towards you in two years, you're not going to get the response you're imagining. Save yourself the disappoint.
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