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My boyfriend of four years just broke up with me. How do I handle it?
All the philosophies about not taking rejection personally, don't address what happens when you're in a committed relationship and your heart gets broken? My boyfriend of four years just broke up with me. How do I handle it?
I'm so sorry you're in pain. What you're going through is a grief process and that has stages: anger, bargaining, denial, depression, all gathered under than blanket of hurt and staying with you until you get to the final stage: acceptance.
The stages can run together, can happen one before the other, and can come at different times, even after you think you're better.
Cry every tear you want to. Scream, throw things, and allow yourself to feel. Gather your support system and talk it out. Always keep in mind that the human spirit is a resilient being and will continue on though our mind and heart is not yet ready. When you are able, look back on the relationship and take the treasures from it that can be used for your next relationship which is sure to come. Throw out the rest before you tempted to pack it up and bring it with you. Silently wish your old love well - even if you left on unfriendly terms, take a deep breath and reenter your life.
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