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Are these merely signs of his insecurity or could there be a bigger issue lurking?
I have been dating his guy for about ten months. The guy I am dating is about a year younger than me. We have been talking about moving in together and while I haven't agreed to it yet, I did tell him I think we should try spending weekends together with us spending the entire weekend (Friday night to Sunday night) together to see how we do and then go from there.
The first few times we did this were fine and I was thinking seriously that we can probably take this to the next step and spend a few more days a week together before making the full commitment of living together. But I've recently noticed a change in his behavior. I have a well paying job with great chances of promotion and my boss recently told me he was considering me for a promotion that would move me into an office of my own. My boyfriend, who has always been supportive, has suddenly become sullen. He has accused me of putting my career ahead of him and if I tell him I am staying late at the office, he becomes moody and cross. He says if I loved him, I would want to be with him and not at the office even if it means giving up the promotion.
We were discussing this for the hundredth time and I told him he was crazy if he thought I would blow this chance because he was insecure. He pushed me against the wall and got in my face and told me never to call him crazy again. I pushed away from him and told him if he came at me again, I would leave him.
Needless to say this has made me have second thoughts about living with him. Are these merely signs of his insecurity or could there be a bigger issue lurking?
You're having second thoughts about living with him? Why are you still with him? He put his hands on you and pushed you up against a wall after trying to emotionally blackmail you out of a career move.
Yes, these are signs of his insecurity and signs of a bigger problem lurking, namely, abuse. There are some things that are no brainers, deal breakers, and line crossers, abuse is one of them. Pack your bags, your self respect and your career and go to your own home. End things with this guy and make it clear he isn't to contact you. You need to stand up for yourself and no amount of niceness makes up for someone who is willing to harm you in order to keep you.
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