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How do I get him to see we should be married now that we have a child?
 I've been with my current boyfriend for the past five years. We have no plans to be married because he said he can't handle that kind of responsibility. My problem is I know he's been cheating on me. To his credit, he's only done it when I was pregnant with our daughter. But because we have a child, I would like for him to commit to a more permanent relationship but he says he's unsure. How do I get him to see we should be married now that we have a child?  The real question is: how can I get you to see you should dump him now that you have a child. What do you mean 'to his credit he cheated on you when you were pregnant?' Certainly, you cannot mean he cheated because you weren't able to have sex with him? It's too late to tell you that you should never have gotten pregnant with a man who has told you up front he doesn't want responsibility. Now you have to watch out for your daughter who cannot make the decision about what type of family she is born into. This man doesn't want to be married, I cannot imagine he wants to be a father if he cheated on you after he made you pregnant. You are going to have to be grown up now because there's a TRUE child in the picture as opposed to you and your boyfriend who are only pretending. You need to find whatever assistance you can to get yours self esteemed built up so you realize you need to leave this man and create a more positive life for you and your child.
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