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How do I get over the pain of having her here for so long and now having her gone?
 I was engaged to be married when she broke off the relationship. I could tell when she changed and I tried to talk to her about it and to get her to talk with me, but she kept saying everything was fine right up to the day she broke it off. I know intellectually that I am better off without her. If she would be dishonest about her feelings then we didn't have a good foundation to begin with. The problem is she was my world. We've been together since we were freshmen in high school and now seven years later she's out of my life. How do I get over the pain of having her here for so long and now having her gone?  You don't get over it - you get through it. Look, your assessment is to realistically take a look at how things were and say to yourself you did the best you could. There's a big difference between being 13 and 20 years old and it could be she changed so much and didn't want to hurt your feelings. It could be she's no good at relationships because yours is the only one she's known. Whatever her reasons for getting out, you need to feel comfortable that you acted with integrity all the way. It doesn't make it hurt less, but once the pain has cleared away, you'll be left without the emotional baggage that often stays with not doing the best we could.
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