|
|
Cheating in Relationships
By Stuart Gregory
In more than half of the world's romantic relationships, cheating always takes place. Whether it's a simple kiss or a full-blown love affair, cheating puts additional stress onto a relationship. There are several reasons why lovers cheat, and the more we understand these reasons, the more we can prevent the causes of adultery.
Some people are just very easily attracted by the opposite sex. Every time a cheating man sees a beautiful woman, he can be very attracted to her to the point of being negligent of his current commitments. The same goes for women who are very attracted to men. The attraction becomes too strong and it occurs too often that they cannot maintain faithfulness to one partner. The key to avoiding situations like these is to check your lover's track record, and to be open to each other about "crushes" that develop in the workplace or in the neighborhood.
People who cheat sometimes find their committed relationships too boring or predictable. When a relationship is new, it's exciting and still gives you butterflies in the stomach. However, the time eventually comes when their initial passion dissipates. This happens especially after 1 or 2 years and a couple is ready to form a serious commitment. Romantic dates are rarely taking place, and sex is very predictable at this stage. When a lover feels this boredom, he or she either reinitiates excitement into the relationship or decides to look for it somewhere else. If you're feeling a bit of boredom in your relationship, go ahead and find some ways that will spice it up a bit. Try different things with both your emotional bond and your sexual relationship. A little extra affection showed in a different manner can go a long way.
Lovers who have low self-esteem have a greater tendency to cheat. This occurs because people with low self-esteem usually have to prove their self-worth by using material things or other people. If they cheat and have a string of lovers following them, it's their way of saying to themselves (and even the world) "Look at me, I am adored and loved by so many people". Since it's almost impossible to raise someone's self-esteem for them, you should just generally avoid people who constantly have the need to compensate for something.
Wanting to "play it safe" emotionally can also lead to cheating. Some people refuse to be in serious committed relationships because of all the emotional investment they require. They'd much rather "have fun and move on". While there's nothing wrong with this per se, when you're starting to get serious with your lover, make sure that you clarify what you both want out of the relationship. You don't want to commit to someone who only wants to be with you in a casual relationship. Being clear about your intentions prevents any misunderstandings from happening.
Whenever cheating takes place in a relationship, the important thing is to get a good perspective on the situation. Were there signs of cheating that you overlooked? Did you somehow contribute to your partner's emotional and physical feelings of abandonment? Or were you simply betrayed by someone who misguided you? It's all a matter of weighing the facts and making sure that you come out of the experience with a wiser outlook.
Related Articles:
Affairs in the Office
Affairs and Cheating - Why Do We Have Affairs?
Confessions of Infidelity
This article can be used by webmasters free of charge for their websites, ezines and blogs. The only stipulation is that the content remains unchanged or edited and that the resource box is included and that the active link to http://www.DrDating.com remains live. Otherwise you are free to use it without contacting us.
This article is for entertainment purposes only. The findings and opinions of authors expressed herein are those of the author and do not necessarily state or reflect those of DrDating.com. See Full Disclaimer for further details.
|
| |
