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So is there are any pearls of wisdom you can dish out in regards to getting over this first hurdle
By David DeAngelo
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I've read your book and been reading your letters for months, and it all makes an awful lot of sense. Though coming from someone that has had as much experience as I have I don't know how much that means. I'm 19 and never been in a relationship, well never actually gone out with a girl unless it was purely as 'friends'. And that's where my problem kicks in. I am the prodigal nice guy, basically reverse all your advise and you'd have me.
That's not to say I don't have what it takes, I'm funny when I'm with friends, and pretty carefree and even a bit cocky when I'm with girls that I'm not at all interested in (I'm not naturally cocky). I've even been told I'm cute by several different girls, so I guess I'm not hideous. The thing is I just can't bring myself to make an approach. If a girl approached me first I'd be able to get her number (hypothetically, no real world experience here). Whenever I have had the guts to ask a girl out in the past it's always the same, you're nice and all, can we JBF?. I now know that was because I was in complete wuss mode while asking these girls out. And I guess I'm finding this act hard to break, I just can't seem to break away from Mr. Nice Guy. I've tried the visualisation techniques you mention, though I guess I just loose motivation, not because I don't want a date, but because I guess I believe I can't get a date.
So if there are any pearls of wisdom you can dish out in regards to getting over this first hurdle it would be greatly appreciated. Think of me as a project you can mould into the ultimate man, Funny, Cocky and Charming.
Thanks for your help in advance
T.C From Australia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, I have two things for you to do:
1) Get online and start chatting with random women. I don't care what service you use, but I like AOL. Just start conversations and tease them.
Instant message a woman who's obviously young and ask, "Are you 50 years old?" Mess with them.
Have fun. This will sharpen up your game, and it will show you how well women respond when you tease them.
2) Go out to a place where there are a LOT of women and put yourself in a location that is IN THEIR WAY.
Here in Los Angeles we have night clubs for people over the age of 18. Find one of these clubs, and go stand by the bar, right where there's the MOST traffic, so a lot of women bump into you.
This will create all kinds of opportunities to talk to women, and many of them will start talking to you.
You'll get a lot of "excuse me" while they try to get to the bar, etc.
Think of a few other ways to put yourself in the paths of a lot of women, and go practice. Just do it.
Your problem is all in your mind. You need to get out there and see that this stuff works, so you can believe in it.
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