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Combat Shyness
By Tim Blackstock
Shyness is something that penetrates through all aspects of your life - not just your seduction technique. You may not know it, but too much shyness prevents you from reaching your potential. If you want to reach your goals, whether they are professional or personal, you need to learn how to combat your shyness. Successfully overcoming your shyness doesn't require several trips to the therapist. All it takes are a few changes in your daily life.
Smiling more often can brighten up your mood and boost your confidence. When you smile, people get the impression that you are approachable and non-threatening. You can practice smiling at home where no one is looking at you, and if you do this enough times, it'll be second nature for you to smile whenever it's appropriate. Don't worry if you're not in a good mood - the act of smiling in itself "tricks" your brain into feeling a bit happier.
Speaking louder will allow you to fully share yourself with other people. Odds are, if you're shy, you are also soft-spoken. A soft voice often denotes passivity and unimportance. While you don't have to yell out your opinions, you do have to make yourself heard. "Throw" your voice at your audience or listeners to make sure that they can clearly hear what you are saying. By making audible statements, you're showing others (and yourself) that you are worth listening to and that you value your own ideas.
Don't be afraid to make eye contact. In the animal kingdom, if you look away from another animal, it means that you are intimidated. Of course, it's usually the same way with humans. Looking away shows that you have less "power" than the person you're talking to. It doesn't mean that you should always look mean, but making eye contact is a gesture of respect that also shows the other person that you are on equal footing.
Of course, you should also put yourself out there by going out socially whenever you get the chance. At first, you may want to hang out with friends, but sooner or later you have to try going out on your own or with new acquaintances. You should also try new activities that you're not used to. This helps you combat shyness because you're put in strange and unfamiliar situations. Soon, you'll be thinking to yourself "If I can do this thing that I normally don't do, I'm sure I can do pretty much anything else" and that includes going up to your boss, picking up women, and other equally "scary" situations.
Keep in mind that the process of overcoming shyness doesn't happen overnight. It requires small steps that you should take regularly in order to keep your confidence from falling back to where you started. Combating shyness also means that you'll have to go out of your comfort zone - so be prepared to have feelings of fear and anxiety at the beginning. Just make sure that you go through with the above exercises despite your fear - because there's no other way to combat shyness.
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