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How to Improve Social Skills
By Stuart Gregory
Improving etiquette and social skills can be a hard task, especially for those who are experiencing extreme shyness. However, proper social skills can be learned by anyone. There are small steps you can take that will help improve your social skills. Below is a short list that can serve as your guide:
Mingle with people you already know. Whenever you're attending family gatherings, use this opportunity to practice your social skills. Approach family members that you don't regularly talk to. It also helps to go out with your friends more often. If you can join parties with them, then go ahead and take that opportunity. By being with people you already know, you'll be more comfortable to speak up.
Be mindful of your body language. Crossing your legs or arms shows that you're a bit on the defense - you're not really in the mood to talk. Make eye contact to show that you're truly interested in what the other person is saying. Avoid yawning, even if you're really sleepy or tired, as this shows others that you are boring them. If you're in a serious conversation, it's best to keep your head up straight. But if you're just talking casually and being friendly, it wouldn't hurt to tilt your head to one side.
Speak clearly and audibly when in conversation. Stuttering and speaking softly will show a lack of confidence as well as a tendency for indecision. You have to make yourself heard, but only if you have something to say. Make sure that every single word counts - that you don't just blurt out any random thoughts that pop into your head.
Listen well. There's an old saying that the reason why we have two ears and one mouth is because we have to listen twice as much as we talk. Always be aware of what the topic of conversation is about, as well as where it is going. By paying attention, you'll be able to figure out what to say and when to say it.
If ever someone offends you, try to keep your cool. People intentionally or unintentionally offend others during a conversation. This especially takes place during heated debates about politics or religion. If someone offends you, it's best to take a few seconds to breathe and cool off. Put your emotions aside, even if someone is intentionally pushing you to the edge. If you find that you can't take it anymore, excuse yourself and walk away. You can resume the conversation when you're feeling less tense.
You can only improve your social skills if you put these ideas into practice. Knowing them in your head simply isn't enough. You have to allow yourself to be in situations where you can practice these tips socially. Don't worry about mistakes, as long as you learn from them. Hopefully, after a bit of practice, you would be confident enough to attend social events by yourself without worrying about your social skills.
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