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About a year ago my wife talked me into having a threesome
I've been married for six years. About a year ago my wife talked me into having a threesome. I admit to enjoying it because even though it was with another man. I liked the idea that another guy was turned on by my wife and I could watch her reactions as she was having sex.
Here's the problem: that one time was enough for me but she's been after me to do it again. i'm not totally opposed to the idea, but I am a little put off as to why she's being so insistent. She says it won't change anything between us, but I don't see how that can possibly be true. I don't know whether to indulge her or turn her down.
I think you have a legitimate right to want to know why this is something she feels so strongly to pursue and to make sure she isn't running from a problem in your marriage that you may not even be aware of. The swinging lifestyle isn't something to take up unless you're pretty sure your relationship can withstand what happens. It is true your relationship will change. New rules and boundaries will have to be developed and agreed upon, for instance: do you have to be in the view of the other one at all times? Are there positions or movements that are sacrosanct to your relationship and can't be shared with anyone else? Are you going to stay strictly with one other person between you or will you embrace an orgy? Will that third person always be male?
Talking about these boundaries will also give you an idea of what her intentions really are. If she wants this to be something that enriches your relationship there should be no problem making sure you're comfortable. If she protests almost everything then you might want to consider she's unhappy and looking for an outlet. If that's the case, don't agree to changing your lifestyle until you've worked on the issues within your marriage. That kind of change will only raise more issues and problems.
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