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I asked him what he was thinking about....
I dated this guy for about four months before I slept with him. The first time we had sex, we were in bed afterwards and I asked him what he was thinking about. He got very uncomfortable and left the bed saying I ruined the mood. I dont understand how asking him that ruined his mood. I told him that and he said I should ask dr dating.� So, Im asking. What was wrong with the question?
Mya
Dear Mya
Your guy certainly knows me. The question is loaded. What possible answer could he give to the question other than he's thinking of you and how wonderful you were. If he said, he was wondering about the score or the game, or something going on at the office, or if there was toilet paper in the bathroom, it would have made you upset and opened himself up to being accused of using you for sex. Heaven forbid if he said, he was thinking about how soon he could get some more.
And it's been my experience that women don't really want to know the answer to the question, they seem to think there has to be some talk and that's how it's initiated. Better to tell him you enjoyed it (especially if you did) and bask in the afterglow.
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