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I would like to do away with the sex games and get down to a more serious relationship?
I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months. One of the things she did that attracted me to her was to flirt and act coy. She would tease me about our eventually being together and having sex and I found that terribly exciting. She made "the chase" more enjoyable. I did what I had to do in order to win her.
Now that we're together, she still teases. She holds sex over me as says I might be able to "get some" if I behave in a certain manner. I've told her that I liked the games in the beginning, but I would like us to do things a little differently. She doesn't seem to get it. Am I not explaining myself well enough when I tell her I would like to do away with the sex games and get down to a more serious relationship?
If you said it to her just like that, I can't imagine that you aren't explaining it well enough. What you may not get is that for her, it's no game.
You didn't tell me what she said to you when you asked her to stop holding sex over you. Did she get mad? Did she agree and can't stop it? Did she take you seriously? One of the things we're taught is: what you did to get someone is what you have to do to keep them. She may be thinking since she had success in getting you that your protests are nothing more than a part of the game.
I don't have enough information because I don't a hint of how she reacted other than you don't think she gets it which says to me she still holding it over you. If that's the case, and she actually withholds sex in order to get her way, you need to consider if this is serious enough to call it quits.
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