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I don't understand why she won't talk to me. I don't want to hurt her or anything
My job involves going from customer site to customer site. At this one place was a girl named Olivia. I would go in and we would always chat for a little bit. I thought she was very nice and she seemed to like me. I wondered whether or not she would consider going out with me.
One day, I purchased a small bouquet of flowers - nothing fancy or over the top and gave them to her. She smiled and thanked me. A couple of weeks later, I bought her a little teddy bear stuffed animal. She smiled again, and said thank you. The other day when I drove up, I saw her at her desk through the door but by the time I got to her station, there was someone else there and they said Olivia stepped away from her desk. I had the funniest feeling she was avoiding me.
I started speaking with the girl who took her place and she said Olivia was feeling as if I was reading more into our idle chat than was there and she wasn't comfortable. I asked her to ask Mary to come out and talk to me, but she wouldn't ask her.
To make a long story a little longer, I knew what time Olivia got off work and I waited for her. She saw me and went back into the building and when she came back out, she had two men with her.
I don't understand why she won't talk to me. I don't want to hurt her or anything, I just want to find out why she isn't talking to me anymore. I know where her group usually hangs out on Friday nights after work and am thinking of going over there just to speak with her. I don't understand her reaction.
Paul
Dear Paul,
You don't understand because you don't want to understand. You already know why she won't talk to you, her co-worker told you: she thinks you're reading more than what's there and she isn't comfortable. It doesn't make her anymore comfortable that you can't seem to take no for an answer, and she isn't going to be flattered when you show up at her hangouts. It will make her feel harrassed and that's just what she'll be.
Leave her alone.
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