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I don't want this awkwardness between us and I don't want him to think of me as loose
I've been working at my job for about ten months. There is this guy who is considered one of the top techs in the country and certainly in our office. We are partnered together for a training session. He is very attractive - his status is part of that. Anyway, after a training session we decided mutually to go to one of the chain restaurants for a quick dinner and we took his car. We had a really good time at dinner talking and getting to know one another. In the parking lot back at the office, we started talking about relationships and how his last one didn't work out because his girlfriend couldn't deal with his traveling schedule. I understood, of course, because once I'm trained, I'll be doing more traveling. He said it was a shame he hadn't met me before his heart was broken. Somehow we ended up making out. I stopped it before it got too heavy; left his car and went home.
This is something I didn't feel good about hours after. I shouldn't have been so free and easy but I got up in the adrenaline. The next day at the office, he was a little colder but still cordial. We have a few more weeks on this project and I don't want this awkwardness between us and I don't want him to think of me as loose. What can I do to rectify the situation?
Don't try and rectify the situation. You need to pretend it never happened. Chalk it up to a mistake and gain your professional composure. The reason you don't want to talk to him about it is because you were played. This is a guy who was running a basic test of "let's see" if I can get a freebie out of this. If you were to talk to him about it he wouldn't take it as an admission of anything other than he made you crazy enough to forget yourself. He's acting colder either because you didn't sleep with him or because you were too willing to start something; either way, talking about it will seem like pursuit no matter what you say. Make sure you don't say a word about what happened to anyone in the office or to anyone who can tell anyone in your office. With his status, it wouldn't reflect well on you and in the event he brings it up you will be the one who appears to the professional by not bringing your personal life into the office.
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